Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Always, Sometime, Never:

My Aunt-In-Law did this and I really loved it.


Stay up later than my husband watching black and white movies.

Say I love you when I get off the phone with my Husband or my Parents.

Say Thank you to the Mail Man.

Want to sleep in, even when I'm super busy and can't.

Defuse tricky situations with Sarcasm.


I forget to shave my legs for a week. Eww I know.

Dream about just Packing up our life and moving us all back to Tx and leaving the Army with Dustins Two week Notice...(Hey! I can dream!)

Forget to thank God for all of my blessings even though they are very apparent in my life.

Forget to put my wedding ring back on after I do the dishes and it scares me that I'll lose them down the sink.

Get so paranoid that I get crazy and have to call my Mom or Julie to calm me down.


Drink sugar in my Hot Tea...I think it ruins the flavor.

Have enough hours in the day to Love my Husband. I feel cheated that there are only 24 hours and for 8 he's asleep and for 12 he's working, minus 2 hours for travel and hygiene. And that only leaves me 2 hours of him being TOTALLY conscious to tell him that I love him.

Get really angry over things I can't control. I just cry about them!

Leave the AC on during the day. I just love the smell of outside too much.

Raise my hand in anger at anything smaller than I am. And that includes the damn dog even when he gets into the trash and drags last nights left overs in my room and under my covers.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Conception Chronicles!

Well, you heard it here (Probably) first. We are officially trying to have a baby.

It's very unnerving. We bounced it around for awhile. But, you can never really be ready. You just have to feel it. And we feel so strongly that it's time. I'm clearly not getting any younger. And we'd like to have our first while Dustin is still enlisted so that we don't have to worry about medical bills. I feel like if we don't do it now, We won't be able to for  QUITE some time.

It's pretty cute, Dustin has already started bouncing names around (Not very good ones mind you.)
But he likes a few of the ones that I've thrown out. I finally can put that list of baby names I have to good use. I mean it's all fun and games when your in High school and your Home and Family Development teacher gives you an Egg or a Bag of flour and tells you that this is your baby Don't drop it. But this is a REAL human being that I am souly in charge of. Kinda crazy. Yes MOM Augustus was thrown out of the window already!!! lol.

I'll post a link to the name list and I can get Y'alls opinons!
Anyways. I'll keep y'all updated as we travel this journey!



Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Birthdays, Babies, and Craigs List Crazy

Well, It's officially Feb. & today, My Aunt-in-law just had baby number 5. ANOTHER BOY. Archer Lee Pamuk.

Today is also my Baby Sister Stephanies Birthday. She's a whopping 19 today.

And my husbands birthday is right around the corner. Of which I have no freaking clue what to get him.

I know I haven't updated much lately. But that's mainly because I don't have too much to say these days.

No social life, no job. And crazy sick.

That's about it.

Although I have been surfing craigs list obsessively.

But that's about it.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Blizzards,The reasons why I hate Georgia, Uhaul, Texas Time and No gators for me...

About three weeks ago, My hubbs was asking me if I had ever gone on "Leave". Of course not, I've never been married to a soldier and I've never been in the Military. He just laughed and said I was in for a treat. That sarcastic tone in his voice made me think that maybe we should have just stayed home, But of course, We're McPhates, and I was a stubborn asshole BEFORE we got married, no reason to change now.

Let's just start off with the "Signs" of why we should have stayed home.

  • Laundry was NOT dry before we left. Coming home to Mildew laundry...gross.
  • CY was LATE bringing the car over.
  • We didn't start packing until 11:30 pm, we signed out at 12.
  • Could NOT find where Dustin was supposed to sign out at. We wandered aimlessly around Ft. Bragg for two hours trying to find command.
  • Right around the SC/NC border it started to snow.
  • We started running out of gas in the middle of NOWHERE.
  • The GPS took us the back route into BFE GA.
  • We got stuck in someones driveway in the afore mentioned BFE.
  • Just as we got UNSTUCK, we ran out of gas at the bottom of a hill, and almost ended up in a ditch trying to make it to the top of a hill covered in 4 inches of ice.
  • Got a tow to the TOP of the hill, only to find out that our POV which is front wheel manual drive, has bald tires.
  • Got ripped off by the tow truck driver that the Cops called to tow us to the gas station. $125 for a 1/2 mile tow. 
  • Got accused of loitering and being homeless as we waited for our SECOND tow truck driver to come take us all the way BACK to Augusta to get new tires.
  • All the tire shops were either closed or couldn't get our tires for two days.
  • Had to rent a UHAUL just to make it out of GA.
  • Husband put DIESEL gas in an UNLEADED tank.
  • Drove 10-25 miles an hour for almost a whole day trying to make it out of GA.
  • Once in Atlanta, I-20 was closed and all streets leading onto I-20 were blocked off.
  • Wandered around in circles in GA till we could make it on to I-20.
  • As soon as we made in ON to the stupid freeway, we almost slid off a bridge.
  • Had to sleep in the cab of the Uhaul. 3 seats, Dustin and I...and the dog.
Now if this trip seems awful, it was.

Being home was great though. It made me realize that as much as I THINK I hate NC in my head, I hate it more...

It went far to fast, and I didn't get to see everyone that I wanted to see. But at least I  had the opportunity to see my family and some close friends.

So...Here are some of the pictures from our trip.

Friday, January 7, 2011

The difference between You and I:

Last night my husband tells me "What are we doing tomorrow?" I tell him, "Nothing that I know of".
He gets the bright idea to take me to dinner. Great. Now, It's the day we're supposed to go to dinner and I am waiting for him to come home. So I do what any normal woman does. I do my hair, my makeup and finish cleaning the house.

When he gets home, I'm sitting in the shirt that I did my make up in. A very very very lowcut number, One from my single days, What I call my "Boob" shirts. Not exactly Romantic dinner and evening alone with your husband shirts. He comes in and simply says, I'll take a shower and we can go. Now I'm sitting here telling him that I need to just change my shirt and we can leave.

He looks very hurt and confused.

He tells me "But that's a great shirt"

I inform him, that this shirt is not appropriate for tonight. One it's too flipping cold. and two, it's a slutty shirt.

He doesn't get that when you get married,Women don't feel the need to wear the "Men grabbing" clothing they wore when they were single. I'm not trying to nab anyones attention except his.

So I guess my question is, Do I keep all my slut garb from my single days? Or opt for classier chic-er look? I vote Classy but maybe I should skank it up to make him feel better. lol

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Let's talk Turkey, and by Turkey I mean Babies!

There seems to be this aura in the air, that now that Dustin and I are married, We need to start popping out babies.

Albeit that I do want kids, ONE DAY.

There are specific things that need to happen before that time.

1. I'd like to get our cars and the bike payed off before hand.
2. I'd like to be ALMOST finished with school.
3. I'd like to be in a bigger home. Babies take up space.
4. I'd prefer it if Dustin was out of the Army before hand, but I'm not too concerned with that.
and finally.
5. I'd like for my husband and I both to not have the mental range of our 5 year old counter parts.

The truth is, we're just not ready. We're still trying to get to know each other. We are still enjoying being newly weds. And we've talked about it. That if it just HAPPENS, then we'll be over the moon excited.  But for now, we just want to have fun with it being just the two of us.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011


"Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open."  ~George Bernard Shaw

My husband is fast asleep. Has been for about two hours now.

I honestly envy him. The man could fall asleep standing up in the middle of a Tornado on the fourth of July strapped to a rocket heading towards outer space.

Meanwhile, the Dog has decided that Dustin is in charge, and refuses to listen to me. If this is any sort of forward look into us having children, I feel I may have to beat my children senseless. (Only Joking)

But as I sit here and watch him sleep, Creepy I know. I realize just how lucky I truly am.

Not too long ago, I was sitting in my room at my parents house thinking to myself, "If I could only find someone that I could truly be myself with, I'd be happy for the rest of my life."

Flash forward a year and here I am. Married. Rapidly approaching 30. Married. Did I mention Married?

Sometimes, I look at him and I think, "Holy CRAP! I'm married. I'm someones Wife. I'm someones Other half, Their Beloved, Their ball and chain."

When the HELL did this happen?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining. I love Dustin more than I could possibly love anything. But, it seems like yesterday that I was sitting in a tree with a broken arm, talking to  squirrels, making up excuses as to why I couldn't do my homework. 

I'm MARRIED...This is tripping me out. 

On a different note, We're heading home to Texas in five short days. Which means a few things.

One. I desperately need to get my rear in gear and start cleaning this apartment for real, so I don't leave it a mess.

Two. We HAVE to eat all the perishable food before we leave...(Hope you like lots of veggies honey)

Three. I seriously need to do the rest of the laundry, Being Naked in Texas doesn't sound fun.

And Finally, We HAVE to go to Target to get the kids Christmas presents.

But I am thoroughly looking forward to spending some much needed time with our families. Being halfway across the country isn't too fun for the both of us. Dang our fams for being so cool.

Alright. Well, Looks like bedtime for the Mrs.
I'm posting pictures of Dustin and the dog hogging the bed as proof that they both kick me off in the middle of the night...Jerks. :D

I love being married.  It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.  ~Rita Rudner

This is JUST the beginning.

Someone once told me that "Love is your souls recognition of it's counter part in another."

The Ancient Greeks believed that humans once had two sets of everything. Four arms, Four legs, and two heads. Zeus was so afraid of their powers, that he separated them from each other, and they were destined to roam this life alone, until they found their other halves. Which is how "Soul mates" came to be.

I realized very early in love, and in life that you KNOW when you find the one your supposed to be with.

This was so very apparent when I met my husband. It literally took all of three seconds for me to realize that Dustin and I were meant to be together. He was sitting on my sisters living room floor (drunk) playing with her big eyed chihuahua. I turned the corner to see him look up at me, and say "His eyes are SOOOO big" and I knew right then. I was in trouble. :)

Since that day, we've been inseparable.

This is our story, Our daily struggles. Our life. Our pursuit of happiness. All of our up's and down's.